Monday, October 19, 2009
Standing up for myself
Why does it seem like all of my friends think that I owe them something? Or that they can just use me and get away with it? I want to stand up for myself, believe me I do, but I just can't find it in myself to stand up and say "Knock it the hell off." Or "Stop making excuses, be a man and take responsibility for your actions." Or "When you say you are going to do something FREAKING DO IT." But sadly I can't, as much as I want to I can't. The funny thing is that a lot of the time my friends when I do confront them they turn it around on me and I'm the one who ends up apologizing, thinking to myself "What the hell just happened?" I think that it is time I cut a lot of ties that I have in my life, get rid of these one sided friendships, if you will. Now don't get me wrong there are two sides to every story and you are more likely to side with yourself, but come on I know when I'm in the wrong and I would just like others to realize when they are and actually admit it and deal with it, instead of writing me off or making excuses.
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Hey PC! Welcome to the world of blogging! I'm sorry to hear about your one sided friendships. I quickly discovered I had a lot of those when I suddenly found myself in a place where for the first time I needed them to lean on instead of the other way around. It's a really awful feeling to suddenly know everyone around you can't do for you what you've done for them for years. And I know what you mean about always being the one apologizing. You just have to let those frienships fade. New friends will come along.
ReplyDeleteThis is the difference between true friendship (give and take with mutual respect) and/or unhealthy dependencies. The problem is that when you have a generous spirit, as you do, you assume that others feel the same way. Instead, they find that they can use you to get what they want (it's all about them). So don't make the same mistake and make it all about you. But when you do help these people, realize that they are not a friend but rather someone you are ministering to. Someone who will not give back - your reward is from the Lord.
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